Have you ever been negatively affected by someone who pretends to be a good person sometimes even godlike and innocent, presenting as friendly, kind and caring, but when you get to know them they are actually the opposite often trying to cause damage, harm or take advantage of you for their own personal gain? If so you may have been bitten by the wolf in sheep's clothing and this blog post may be of some interest to you.
I, like many others in society have been bitten by the wolf who presents in sheep's clothing many times. If the bite from a wolf doesn't heal properly the effects from their bite can be disastrous, causing mental health problems, low self esteem and loneliness.
In our survival guide for life it is so important to be able to understand why these people present as a sheep, be able to spot a wolf in sheep's clothing, know how to heal the bite from the wolf and how to prevent getting bitten again. Then we can safeguard ourselves from their deceit and manipulation, so we can heal and not continuously bleed from their nasty bites, for the sake of our own mental well-being.
Why do people present as a wolf in sheep's clothing?
They present this way so they can get what they want from you to fulfil their own desires for admiration, power, control, and validation.
How to spot a wolf in sheep's clothing.
They use manipulation for personal gain: They present as nice, loyal, helpful and even humble. In reality they are hiding their true selves by pretending to appear this way so they can gain what they really want from you which is power and self-interest.
They use emotions against you and open up emotionally to you far too quickly. These people present as trust worthy, they tell you that they can instantly trust you, they might even tell you that you are special which is why they have opened up to you, revealing to you their deepest problems, fears and needs very quickly, often even seeming to be the victim. However their stories don't always add up, but their emotional openness makes you start to trust them really quickly, so you then open up about yourself. However in time they will play on your emotions and use your grievances against you for their own self-gain.
They show aggressive reactions over something so small which are unexpected: They present as kind, understanding and even empathetic, but there will always be small insignificant incidents that happen where they are aggressive to you. For example, it might be as simple as not replying to one of their messages quick enough, or not replying in a way that they expect of you, or not being able to be there for them when they demand you to be.
They don't treat others, the way they expect to be treated: They present as the friendliest person ever, however when you get to know them you see they are highly judgemental and critical of others and even you. Yet they refuse to accept criticism which is directed at them as they feel they can do no wrong. They can become hostile when confronted with their wrongdoings.
They focus primarily on themselves, neglecting others feelings, wants and needs: They present that they want to build a deep connection or to have a long-lasting relationship with you, but in actual fact they would rather fulfil their own wants. needs and desires, usually at the detriment of you.
How to heal the bite from the wolf.
Recognise that what they put you through was abuse.
End the relationship, cut ties completely. Block their phone numbers and emails and unfollow or block them on social media.
Prioritise your mental health and well-being.
Talk to others. Reach out to family and friends who you can trust, who are your safe place.
Practice self care and self compassion.
Seek professional support if you need to.
How to prevent getting bitten again.
Always trust your gut. It's so important that you listen to your own intuition. If you experience a nagging feeling of unease about someone, or feel suspicious about them, even if you can’t explain your feelings logically, but you know something isn’t quite right, step with caution, create firm boundaries and protect your own mental health and well-being.
Thank you for commenting. Yes I absolutely agree with you. The sooner you realise it was them not you the less damage they can cause and one can start healing from their abuse.
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